Happy Couples Don’t Talk About Their Relationship On Social Media

Do you and your partner love flaunting your relationship on the internet, giving it a digital audience? Do you constantly post updates about your relationship on Instagram and Facebook? Do you give live coverage of every single thing you do with your spouse to the rest of the world- every date, every kiss, every gift, every argument? Then chances are that you are just in a fake relationship. Research shows that happy couples are more likely to spend less time on the internet and more time with each other. Here are some reasons why truly happy couples choose to keep their love-life offline, away from the prying eyes of social media.

1. They Prefer Living The Moment Instead Of Clicking Selfies Or Writing Statuses

When two people are absolutely happy with each other, they would spend more time with each other, instead of wasting precious moments uploading pictures and writing long statuses. It’s not like they shun the social media all together, but they will be less active on the internet if they actually have a life together.

2. They’re Aware That They Gain Nothing Out Of Discussing Their Problems Online

People in a real relationship are well aware of the fact that live telecasting their relationship problems will not help them solve anything, other than giving people something to laugh about. People on social media don’t really care about your problems- the moment you realize this, you and your partner will be much happier in life.

3. They Don’t Need ‘Likes’ And ‘Followers’ To Feel Happy

A couple that is truly in love does not yearn to be liked by others. Their life does not revolve around the uncontrollable need to make others feel jealous or inferior. They are happy with each other, and that’s all they need. The number of likes you get will not make your relationship stronger.

4. They Have Nothing To Prove To The Rest Of The World

When two people are happy together, they do not have to hunt for approval on public forums. They have each other, and that’s all they need. They are together because they love it, and they want to spend time with each other. They have absolutely nothing to prove to the rest of the world. That’s how all real relationships are. The moment you start using each other to portray to others that you are happy, you leave a dent in your relationship.

5. They Don’t Compare Their Relationship With Others’, Nor Compete

Most importantly, studies have found how people who are truly happy do not bother about how the other couples are doing. They do not compare themselves with other couples, nor do they see it as a competition. Your relationship is yours alone. There is no need to wave it in other people’s faces.

Article by CureJoy.com

Wow! Nobody Cares

I have to admit here that I put considerable amount of weight. Metabolism is all I have to blame.

Back in those days, I had no limitation when it comes to eating. Fried chicken skin, grilled fish, fried chicken and ice cream were some of my favourite supper back in college time. Don't even mention what I have for supper now - most of the time is just plain skim milk.

I no longer have that V-shaped face nor the skinny body. It's all over the place now, as in physically.

So will gym be my last resort to maintain my general well being?

Looks like it. If i hit the gym, it will be like a reality TV series, I believe I would be super bimbo there.

If I ever manage to have sizzling body (say like Justin Bieber), should I flash it all over Facebook? I cannot comprehend those gay folks showing off the bodies in Facebook. I know it is sort of achievement but the other hand, for me, those people are worthless. The only thing worthy of them is their bodies.

Maybe their parents didn't pay much attention to them when they were young. So they need to show off their bodies like vagrants for attention when they grow up (gay bash alert). I must say that I'm really fascinated by their postings. How did they learn to say "I want attention" with so many different captions with just one body.

If they didn't have those sexy body, will people pay attention to them and click 'like' in Facebook? I doubt so.

Oh well, gay community is that superficial.

To be honest, I would not date a guy who likes to show off his body in Facebook. I know it sounds harsh but it looks very dirty for me as if they didn't shower for days. And why on Earth I will let my lover's body to be shown to other people, his body only applies to my exclusivity.

I would prefer my partner to have the brain rather than the body - as the saying goes, beauty gets the attention, personality gets the heart.

You see brain is a gift and it's irreplaceable whereas we can train ourselves to have a sexy body- you and I can do it, so it's not that precious actually, pretty common i would say. I would prefer someone who is smart and witty and that it would be perfect.

When Somebody Loved You

How many of you will open the nofitication in Facebook which alerts you on the memories you had with who and who today.

It's a mixed feeling to open the notification. It's rather guilty to look at yourself back then when you were used to be skinny. Look at you now, you have grown horizontally.

Notifications are not meant to be opened since it would flashback those memories that you had with someone you loved before.

I know life is about moving forward but some fragments of the past could be nostalgic sometimes. It really warmed my heart for a mere second when I opened an notification few days ago. It was those silly memories that I used to have with someone who treated me so dearly. But oh well, maybe I'm not meant for him, so we didn't get together eventually. 

Now he's attached with someone else...just hate that bitch who stole my ex-baby away. Just joking - to be honest, I'm very happy for them whenever I see their lovey dovey Facebook postings. At least he is happy.

Whereas for me, I'm also attached. Yay?

There are so many postings in Facebook from my friends/acquitances who are always lamenting that they are still single and lonely.

Please don't be. Having a relationship is not fireworks and celebration everyday. You still need to work and still need to face the ugly part of reality. Romance never long lives. Quarrels are inevitable. Having a relationship is not the absolute cure for loneliness. 

My dear lads, please don't rush for relationship. Feelings and excitement may blind you sometimes in searching for ' the one'. Let me share you one tip, the moment when you realize and assure that you could give part of your life to that very someone and that very someone could take the lead when you are not able to, let me tell you one thing, that very someone is most likely could 'the one' for you.

Don't  know why I'm being emo writing this entry. Let's end the night with an emo song by Jay Chou...

Weekly Update: RM 2 Billion, A Phone, 90 & Durian Seller

Our social media has been going frenzy recently. Really, the happenings lately have been making us extra addicted over our Facebook.

Since I've been quiet in the blogging radar, let's have little discourse of recent happenings which have been caught much of our attention via social media.

Lord of The Ringgits:The Two Billion

We were literally  had a rude shock with the Wall Street Journal's expose that alleges DS Najib has siphoned whopping $700 million in his personal account. Game over for him?

I don't think so. Come on, Najib is our PM and we know him well. Do you think he will relinquish his post just by a mere report from a foreign land? And the special task force to investigate this matter is lead by four Tan Sri's and you know who is their boss? Yes, Najib himself. Don't you think it's rather absurd to probe your boss. Seriously, be real, rakyat is secondary, title and power are primary. I don't think these four Tan Sri's would be so dimwitted to jeopardise their respective high-ranking post.

Melee over a Phone

Let's make it simple here, as stated by police - The riot at Low Yat Plaza came after a 22-year-old man was reported handed to the police for allegedly stealing a phone Saturday, after which he contacted his friends and they allegedly assaulted workers from the mobile phone store and damaged it, causing losses estimated at RM 70,000 and subsequent melee.

That's the whole story. But some people are trying to flair up racial tension over this incident. Seriously, those closed minded people should close their mouth or else, just bring them behind the bars - be it Chinese or Malay.

Dr. M turned 90!

I bet he's taking botox coz there are no visible signs of wrinkles on his face. 

Nevertheless, we are proud of you and please don't stop the struggle that you are facing. The whole Malaysia is with you.

I managed to bump into Dr. M @ KLCC 

Attention Seeker Durian Seller

Apparently, this Jordan Yeoh hunk decided to help his auntie and uncle to sell durian since it's a marketing trend. So yeah, he took his shirt off while selling durian and it went viral.

Come to think of it, why helping his auntie and uncle to sell during marketing trend now? Why not before this? Why have to intentionally have to go shirtless and take picture? Conclusion, he is seeking for attention. 

To be honest, you can call me a shallow minded person but showing off your body to entice your costumers is nothing great. Somehow, that act is degrading his dignity. I know it is mean but he looks like a male version of tramp for me.

That's all for the Weekly Update. Stay tune for next week - i hope.

The green display of affection

Every time I look at those public display of affection in Facebook - I would ask myself "Alvin, when is your turn?"

Not near future of course. I gotta admit it that I do get envy sometimes whenever I come across those affection. Am I that low and bad quality to have someone just to have slightest taste of affection? 

Maybe due to peer pressure, I feel low confidence sometimes. I'm not good looking or I have hard rock solid sexy body; I don't even stand a chance in this gay market. But being say that, I'm choosy as well. Honestly,I would like someone who is a brainer instead of those typical faggot you find on the street or those gay people who are so poor, what they have is only their bodies. Like those shrimps, nice succulent body but without brain.

Ok, back to the topic: public display of affection is out of topic for gay in the actual public sphere what I mean is virtually in Facebook. 

I know happiness is to be shared but those affection could turn people's eyes green eventually. Who knows someone is jealous about your relationship that goes so well and intimate until it irks him to ruin your relationship. Anything could happen.

And of course, gay community in Malaysia is rather small, so everyone knows each other. You might never know your best friend's boyfriend is the guy you slept with before - it might happen.  

So why declare to the public on who is your another half. The more public see the affection in Facebook, the more attention it garners and the more gossips that follow. I don't rule out that the gossips are the reason of relationship breakdown.

It's true; let's make a scenario here: your partner is highly popular in the scene; so everyone in gay community scrutinizes every move you guys make. Once there is a little small issue in your relationship, everyone will take notice and talk about it. Inevitably, some feedback could add another blow to the issue which in the end the issue has gone out of proportion then break up in the end.

So kids, stay low ya? 

Btw, this entry is meant for gay folks, not straight.

Sweet O Success

Failures and regrets; I have a few but then again, too few to mention. But yet, I do have an accolade of achievements that I really proud of. 

During school days; for most of us, I believe the achievements and success stories would be like scoring straight As, getting top in the class and won some competitions. Academically, well, I wasn't the dumbest person in the class, I scored pretty well ok? Achieving academic result was a piece of cake.

As you enter the battlefield of working   environment, achievement and success stories are rather difficult to be written since it's a real world. There's a Chinese saying "it takes three years to yield three minutes of fame on the stage". That saying simply testifies the amount of effort and dedication before you reap what you sow in your work.

Well, I do feel proud of my work so far, be it in my old agency or new agency. Sometimes I couldn't expect myself that I could produce that successful results. It is a great humility indeed.

However, every time I did a great job, at the end of the day, I would feel emotional about it. I felt like that I need to break the news to someone and share the joy and celebrate about it. I wanted to share it in FB but I refuse to coz hardly people know what Public Relations is all about. And I didn't want to create attention in Facebook.

Strange right? I should be happy and proud. My pride will be written in my cv but the hidden joy is the main issue here.I don't know how to express it nor I know how to share it. 

I hope I won't be a drifter. But I won't be satisfied every key results that I have achieved. As the achievement is attained, it is my natural instinct to raise the bar even higher to achieve even higher result. That's why it's hard to be little Alvin coz I never satisfied. 

Young and Reckless Before Old and Wise

I know when i was in pre-teen years, i had this paranoia that how would i look like or where would i be when i turned 30.

Though i still haven't hit the big 3 O just yet but i feel myself is aging coz i have some signs of erectile dysfunction. Just joking, the big 3 O is nearing soon to be honest with you.

I mean seriously, every time i scroll down the Facebook, I'll be definitely bombarded with those younger gay boys' posts (i love it when they go nympho and take the shirt off and post in Facebook) - somehow or rather, their posts are not thought-provoking sometimes. Am i disconnecting to the younger generation gradually and heading to the old fags' home?

Maybe the term "aging" is too strong, "mature" sounds better.


Another reason how this mature thingy strikes me is the conversation topics with my close friends are somehow sway into to the grown up men topics. Okay, i admit that i was a SGL  (sei gay lou aka faggot) before and men would always be my favourite topic. But now, i mostly discuss about career, politics, investment and economy. Like yesterday, i had an hour chat in wee hours at the cafe with my friend on Budget 2014. I guess most of the SGL would be discussing about men or bitching about the gay people in Jack D - predictable.

Additionally, i feel myself aging coz i need supplements to maintain my well-being. I always wanted to adopt a healthier lifestyle like eat healthily, sleep early and do exercise regularly but i failed miserably. Really, the staircase will be my worst enemy coz it always cause me shortness of breath. That's why i'm currently scouting for a gym to build up my stamina. Pump up my body? I don't know want to pump up or not coz i would never imagine how would i look like if i become really fit like muscle on every inch of my body. I think body like Justin Bieber will be just nice for me.

Actually i don't like overly fit those kinda body - it looks like walking Michelin. The worst cases that trigger me to bitch about them are fit body with small legs (they look like put chai kou (chinese pudding cake) with two sticks shove into the bottom) AND fit body with small head - if Hollywood wanted to make a movie of Ninja Turtles, definitely, they can be the casts easily(I'm not being bitchy but just look at the turtle and you will get what i mean)

I think i have to stop here coz the more i blog the more bitchy i am. And i'm glad that i didn't mention about settle down here coz the heartbreak kid still wants to play more. Nah, it's not the best time for me to settle down and hardly anyone can open up my heart.

Here is a saying before i end my entry:

You know you're old when your regrets overcome your dreams.

Can't Silence My Love

What do you really check out in Facebook?

I've to be honest with you, aside from the timeline, on regular basis, i'll check out Malaysian Gags, a friend  ex friend of mine who always posts those "OMJ" bimbo and dramatic posts but no one will like it (when nobody likes his posts he will start tagging people - awesome right) and of course some hotties who always give me soft porn as in always flash their skin. Talking about hotties, i'm delighted that an acquaintance of mine had gone from skinny anchovy to sizzling hottie. I knew he was going to gym thingy but i had no idea what the result ensued. And praise the Lord, i'm not sure he is an attention seeker or confidence booster - he posts his shirtless photos almost everyday. And he even reaped off his shirt at Trick Art Museum in iCity - an archangel he called it. I hope those families with little kids and those foreign tourists won't be aroused by his doing.

Anyhow, the other thing i check in Facebook is that the person that i love  harboring my feeling on. I know i'm such a dumbass to do so that but i'm really eager to know how his day was. I know i deserve a tight slap right now as i still couldn't move on although he already attached long time ago. Seeing him with someone else can make me lonely sometimes. 

I'm not saying that i don't have friends but i can't bother them all the time. And they have personal space and things to do also. I'm not implying i'm weak either; i can spend my time on my own (sometimes i could be very busy with my work until do not have time for myself). Having said that, i just want to have someone to call my own. Someone that has so much chemistry to be with and someone that has so much admiration on me and vice versa.

However, i will not rush to any relationship just for the sake of being in relationship.I don't know. I don't think i'm ready for relationship. Coz i don't have a hot body to bait anyone just yet. Nah, i still have this orthodox thinking that beauty lies within. 

I know the fags out there could simply have relationship like a laundry basis but not me. Well, i used to fall so fast to anyone whom i had little crush on but lesson learnt. Things won't work based on crush and based on simply  he is your type. It doesn't work out this way honey.

 I guess i'm not the only one who has this thinking, maybe you too. Take things slowly. Don't rush. I know you are afraid that if you don't take action now, he will be gone. But would you rather to take the risk to have another heartbreak without knowing a person and hook up with him which might stand a chance that things won't work eventually?

Conversely, don't hold your silence too long as he maybe isn't sure you're into him or not whereas he is really into you. Actually, there is no 101 in this thing called love. I did hold my silence once and look what the silence has done to me - writing this lonely blog for those lonely souls out there. Silence doesn't always mean yes it may also mean no but it's better left unsaid. 

If i ever had the chance to break the silence, i would say this to him "I can't live a day without you in my mind. I think about you all the time"

Chubby VS Hottie

Though I've been quiet in Facebook lately  but my eyes still can see.

Aside from those dramatic posts from you know who, I'm completely blown away by acquaintance of mine who goes topless. He used to be a skinny lad but he became bigger in size after took up gym routine then booyaah! He posted his shirtless picture in Facebook and it was literally delectable. Not surprise, he had over 300 likes.

So I'm thinking do the gay people here share this common belief that you need a hot lucious body to be accepted in the community or to be the visible ones?

What about those who posses super skinny body or even fat laden body? Sidelined? Unwanted? Or just get out From this community? Imagine they post a shirtless picture in Facebook, no people will even take notice unless those people who have bizarre preferance. 

I've been thinking to hit gym and make my body in shape and take shirtless picture and post it in Facebook to let theworld  to see my nipples.

Just joking, I'm not those attention whores. 

The reason I'm considering to hit the gym is well, I eat a lot so there are some unwanted parts of my body. But the main objective will always be building up my stamina and to have a healthy lifestyle.

Maybe I should put this in my resolution for 2014.

2013: the story so far

Half year has passed and what you've done so far? Did you make it up for your resolutions or are you still struggling to achieve the bloody resolutions which you have set for yourself at the start of 2013.

I don't know about you but for me, the first half was pretty alright. I didn't achieve any resolution just yet but i did make my dream come true. I know you will laugh at me for saying this but i finally made a trip to Disneyland. It was simply a magical trip in Hong Kong.

Since it's already July, let see the progress of my resolution for 2013.

Change Job 

It was either i didn't possess the good vibes of first impression or the expected salary i requested was far beyond they could afford. For the first half of 2013, i've been through many interviews and i was delighted that big brands approached me but ended up nothing in the end. I'm still with the same old company. Not complaining coz i do enjoy what i'm doing and this December, my experience in this stressful PR industry will be exactly four years. I think i can attempt managerial level from now. I could not imagine the fate of the people under me.

Anyway, to be honest, i don't earn big bucks. So among my peers, some earn lesser than me and some earn more than me. Well, i don't really like to share how much my salary is coz it's rather private for me but i don't know why some people is dying to know my figure. And that very some people apparently earn more than me. Seriously, if you earn more than me why bother to ask me? Implicit move to belittle me and look down on me?

He even dare to ask me this question "Do you feel jealous that i earn more than you?" . Well, i don't. You earn more, I'm happy for you. I lead a decent life and not those lavish lifestyle and i'm very contented of what i have now.

To be honest, yes, some companies has rejected me but hey, i did decline some offers from some big companies as well, i'm just waiting for the right time and the right job okay. It's like the green light at the end of Daisy's dock in Great Gatsby. So close but it's still out of reach. But once i have reached the light, i don't really mind to share my new salary with that person.

New Car

I'm not really rushing for one though but recently, i did some test drive on several brands - Rio, Fiesta and Prius C. Well, i'm not sure when i have a new mobil but i'm looking forward for the last quarter of 2013. Why? Because the car that i want requires 3 months of waiting period and the more i prolong, the more i can pay for my down payment. Once i have it, definitely it will boost my ego, come on, let me show off a bit coz i've been humble for so long. Or else that very someone will look down on me again with my old car. Yeah, i have this silent war in outdoing each other but i take it healthily. 

Travel

My Hong Kong trip was with my friend so i do look forward to have another overseas trip with my mom this time. I think more than 10 years i never travel overseas with her. Let's see any good deals in MATTA Fair. I'm looking for either Beijing or Shanghai, maybe you can suggest me the best place to travel with family - please bear in my mind that i'm the one who will pay for my mother, so please give me some ideas that will not be painful for my wallet.

Relationship 

Not in my list for 2013 but if it comes, i will be more than happy. July is the month of love for me and i believe opportunities arise in this very month. But i doubt so coz the quality of gay men/boys are going down. Don't believe me? just scroll down your Facebook, you will see the gay people are too poor to buy a shirt or too proud with their armpit hairs. [Not you, JL] Don't forget the bimbos too! 

So yeah, gay circle is getting too mundane like everyone is like the same for me now. But don't bother me much coz i'm not looking for one for now but if it the prince comes, i definitely will leave my stilettos for him to pick up.

So it's July, I wish you a great second half of 2013 ahead. Just kick some asses and fulfill your resolutions for this year. Like what Jay Chou sings "Let's ride the sunshine, dash against the tide on the sea, attract her sight and don't be afraid to show your chest and perspire some sweat!"

Boys Just Want to Have Fun

 Back when there was no gadgets or iPad, things were pretty simple and we could have fun out of anything with our friends. Patty cake, hide and seek,  Lego, playing tadpoles at the pond, flying paper planes.

But as i grow older like right now, i feel like there is no fun in me anymore. I don't about you but i think as we grow older, the word 'fun' is slowly detaching from our lives.What if you have all the glitters in the world but you are not having fun then you die. It will be sad then.

Seriously, come of think of it, my life is pretty mundane now. Weekdays occupied with my work and weekend is  occupied with my sleeping therapy, finishing off my office work at home, laundry, cleaning up my room and there goes my weekend. Only left limited time to hang out with my friends.

Geez, i don't want to have this kinda life until i die. I want to have fun - but how?

Perhaps, i should hit the gym and have a lean fit body and clad in tight T shirt or better still wear nothing at all (shirtless) and cam whore with my sexy body and post it into Facebook. How about that? Well, this is what gay dudes are doing, so why not jump on the bandwagon? Sounds shallow right?  I'm gay but i have to admit here that most of the gay are bundle of shallow minded. I mean seriously, i bet that those fags are happy to receive so many likes in Facebook with their pictures. I wonder people who click like on your raunchy photos will help you when you're in troubles.

What about travelling? No doubt it's fun. Exploring unknown places with a blank mind-leaving all your worries all behind. I love  to travel but sadly i don't have the time. I hope i have some spare time to travel with my mom in Q4 this year. I'm eyeing on Beijing - i know sound so wrong for a banana to go China but i would be delighted to learn my Chinese ancestry better.

What about having a lover, it will be fun. It's more than fun -it's a bliss. Really, i was so happy to spent those quality times with my exes and with those almost lovers. Alas, fate doesn't like me yet. Nah, this primadonna should stay single before causing troubles to others.

I think i just grab someone and drag him to my room -definitely it will be more than fun. Just joking..I know the best way to have fun at the moment is spend those quality time with my friends and have the best laugh at the foolish world. And religiously find new guys in Jack D to start off a clever and flirtatious conversations - never fails to amuse me by doing that.

Or maybe i should be Cyndi Lauper and call my girl friends up and dancing on the street. Better not, or else the police will catch me for illegal gathering.

When A Slut Falls in Love

Let's have a break from the ongoing general election frenzy. And trust me, this entry has nothing to do with me. Just want to share my thought.

Undoubtedly, gay circle is full of sluts. But what constitutes a slut?  Though it's a common derogatory term but they have thousand explanations to defend themselves. Sorry, if i offended you unwisely by labeling you as a slut (if you ever categorized below) but hey, we have something in common, meet you at the car park.

You whore! Stop sleeping around!

Defensive line: It's hard to control raging hormone. Look, i'm single, so i ain't liable to anyone. And i've got that look, people are just keeping after me, well they will eventually end up on my bed. Life is short, let's play.

Geez, you have 200 messages in your Jack D!

Defensive line: No la, i don't know why they message me. I don't have time to check my messages, busy as beaver.

Changing lovers as if changing underwear

Defensive line: Taylor Swift can do it, why not me? I'm trying hard to sustain a long term relationship but they have problems!

You attention whore!! Showing off body in Facebook

Defensive line: Please la, don't misjudge me as i'm a slut. I'm just sharing the progress of my effort at gym. You guys be the judge for my report card.

Anyway, back to the gist of my entry, does slut fall in love or they just don't believe in love at all and keep the sex machine going.

I don't know, i'm not a slut.

But i really wonder, would the slut relinquish the enormous sex pleasure with all the men that he wants and only have sex and be loyal to one man only? Would the slut delete all the gay social apps in the phone and minimize the gay social circle? Would the slut settle down and work hard to sustain a longer term relationship? Would the slut be more conservative and appropriately clad in the eyes of the Facebookers?

I don't know. But one thing for sure, when a slut falls in love, that person must have something which is incredibly attractive that could change a horny, naughty and meanie slut to a composed, loyal and obedient, loving lover.

Okay, you're reading too much of my blog. Take off your shirt and ride on my bike right now!!

Steady hands, just take the wheel

Have you ever have a little pause and ask yourself where are you right now?

Yes, you are reading my blog in front of your laptop or smartphone.

I mean seriously, do you know where you at and do you know where you're heading to in your career path?

Seriously, i never thought ever in my life i could end up being a Public Relations practitioner. I'm not a well-converse kinda person, i mean verbally. But look at me now, I'm a worn out boy handling international and big brands. Big brands never come easy, i'm like a sugarcane in a crushing machine - oozing all my energy out to meet the high demands of those brands. Complain not, i guess you and i share the same fate also, we are just plain sugarcanes which are ready to be crushed.

Actually, i'm not a good planner in my career but i know what is my strength, what is my forte, what is my weakness and what i want for my next job.

It seems that most of my friends are changing their jobs now whereas for me, I'm still at the same old company. Well, not complaining because without this company, i wouldn't be who i am today.

But being said that, i hope i won't spend my sweet time in my comfort zone - it's about time to inch out.I always tell myself that my next job is for career advancement, salary is secondary. Do you share the same sentiment with me?

What is the main factor or factors that drive you to change your job? Career advancement? Higher pay? Horrible bosses? Too stressful? Too bored?

Whatever it is, I know i should be proud but i feel really humble instead, sometimes unbelievable that i'm approached by really huge big companies. Like seriously, me? Bitch please, i'm the one you're looking for hahaha....

Too early to have a clue on what my next job will be, who knows that I'll be staying put at my current company.

Before i end my note, i wanna share with you guys, few weeks ago, i was verbally attacked in Facebook for commenting my own opinion. In his verbal attack, he belittled me that i came from a small town that i'm such a dumb ass and know nothing about big city like Kuala Lumpur (though i've been staying in KL for seven years now)-he asked me to go back to Ipoh. My town might be small compared to KL but little did he know that my little small town Ipoh produces so many prominent names - Michelle Yeoh, Michael Wong, Jack Lim, Amy Mastura, Baki Zainal, Lat - to name a few.

I didn't retaliate, i just deleted off his Facebook. Little did he know that this little kid from small town is handling international brands. I can't wait to add him back and let him see my job description ( or new job description) in my Facebook.

Actually, i'm very stressed right now and my sister ditches me for some other guys (i know i will be killed for saying this) so here is the song for you and me, no matter how stressed up with our work, we still need to carry on. Like what Nate sings "Cause we are, we are shining stars, we are invincible, we are who we are on our darkest day when we're miles away, so we'll come, we will find our way home"

Everything will be alright

Facebook Etiquette: Dos and Don'ts

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No one can deny that we are eat, sleep and play with Facebook. Literally, our lives are so much revolving around this social network that we can’t live without it. I guess the first website you will go to when you wake up from the bed is Facebook and even Facebook replaces the punch card at your office – once log in, tick, you at work.

Facebook indeed transforms the landscape of our daily communication as well as the marketing strategies of businesses. However, as we indulge ourselves with this social network, do we have a set of etiquettes to govern the use of Facebook so this social network won’t be a nuisance network?

My job scope does involve Facebook, so you can see me online most of the time. Really, as I leave it online, Facebook could somehow be a nuisance and sometimes revolting too as Mark Zurkerberg did not set a set of etiquettes in using Facebook. Well, he did provide privacy and report setting but sometimes the contacts in Facebook are your friends; you wouldn’t want to report your friend to administrator right? Well, this is dilemma I’m facing, feel annoyed but can’t block them –the only thing I can do is tell him/her off which also might jeopardize our friendship.

Trust me, in the world today, to end a friendship is simple –just block them in Facebook and they will get the message.

Let me share with you my dilemma and the etiquettes that should be adopted in Facebook.

The harassment of game requests

You think is so nice to have the initial A as your first name? Well, it might be a boon for registration purposes as your name will appear first in alphabetical order but not in Facebook.

My name begins with consonant “A” so the people will take this opportunity to harass me with game requests as my name will appear the first few rows and  I don’t play Facebook game or any online games at all. They are a bunch of lazy asses who are lazy to scroll to find people who are really into Facebook games. On average, I have 10 requests per day. The game requests have reached to the breaking point of my tolerance, so I have decided to report them.

Spam the timeline if you have pretty face

I know this point is rather bitchy but it’s an ugly truth. I have few friends in my list that who like to spam on the wall in the Facebook without any mercy. Their postings could be up to 20 or more in a day with average two postings per hour. Well, 20 postings for a day is alright if you are feeding an developing news or happenings or even the dynamic business updates but 20 postings on your bimbo personal stuff on you is rather annoying. What are the postings that irk me off recently: I shave my legs, I went to toilet, my boobs are small, I’m doing my gym (gay men’s favourite posting) and the list goes on. Seriously, no one cares. I have an anonymous friend who spamming non stop in FB and pity him, no one likes on his posting or don’t even a single comment. I know, it’s hard to get attention in Facebook nowadays. People do care when you have a pretty face. Yeah, really. I have plenty of friends who are drop dead handsome and even simple “Good night” can generate more than 30 likes. I know I don't have pretty face, that’s why I’ve been quiet lately in Facebook.

Don’t tell the world you are a loner

Spamming Facebook wall is annoying. I guess you should stop spamming when you realize that no one like your posts or corresponding comment on it. So, you should have self-dignity to lie low when no one cares about your post. Please, it's a big no no to like your own post when there is no feedback from others. Really, it’ s very sad to do that.

Tag your friends if you want attention

Like, tag and win basis contest is the hit mechanism in Facebook today. I do that to because either I want to win or helping my friends to win. What if you friends post something and tag you in and you don’t have interest at all? Irritating indeed – really, a lady tag me for lingerie sales before.

A little respect for those who passed on

Facebook has become a vital platform to announce someone’s demise. Well, it can work out well so the relevant people could be informed about the sad news. But should we ‘like’ the posting when it is related to someone’s passing? I don't think so. I think it’s rather disrespectful.

Verify first to save yourself from embarrassment

People like hoaxes and rumours because the gist of the news is so sensational and interesting. Inevitably, you want to be a news breaker so much and post the new unverified news first in the Facebook. Voila, embarrass yourself in the end as the news is not an actual fact. I’ve got a friend who posted that Morgan Freeman died last month and he was besieged with comments to tell him off that it was a hoax. I have no idea where he hides his face.

Vent out your frustration at work

It’s good to vent out your stress or frustration at work to reduce the stress level of yours by sharing it with your friends. However, no matter how private your setting is, Facebook is still a public realm website and you never know who will read your posting-it might be your boss or your clients.

I know most of you guys don’t add your bosses in Facebook but what if your privacy setting is open to all ?Or one of your colleagues have your boss in their contact and the boss intentionally and unintentionally see your fuck-your-boss postings? Warning letter is definitely on its way.

Chain status updates           

Remember those postings that tell you that you need to post a picture or a status into the wall and share it with your friend or else you will die. I have received many of them and I’m still alive writing this entry.  Well, sometimes it’s good gesture for public announcement or charity drive but don't overdo it and it doesn’t kill you if you don’t post those chain statuses.

So what will you do if you come across the situations above? Facebook always knows what we want. Just click report. You can either choose, unsubscribe, unfriend or block with reasons:

My friend is annoying me OR my friend is harassing or bullying me

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Disturbing Gay Behaviour in Facebook

Irritating. Annoying. Disturbing. Disgusting. Unpleasant.

I’ve lost the entire adjective to describe the gay behavior in Facebook. Nevertheless, this is not gay bashing entry. I believe this sort of behavior makes you guys so special compared those heterosexuals.

I blog this entry few years ago. Gosh, your behavior still hasn’t changed?

It’s really entertaining to observe you guys behavior in Facebook. Though I’m living an alternative lifestyle but still – it really makes sick. No offence to my queer friends, Im just being outspoken to express my observation, I believe you and me share the common observation too.

Check-in at gym

I’m not a gym goer so I don’t understand the excitement of check-in at gym. Are those gyms giving some sort of promotion for those who check-in? Sorry for being rude, but I always have this mindset that gay guys are bunch of sluts. So I presume when they check –in at their respective gym, is it a sign that to notify to another gay that they are at the same place? So they will meet up for drinks after workout followed by sex. Okay, just ignore the courtesy; just have sex at the shower room immediately!

Cam-whore!!

I would go easy on this because I’m one of them too! Please snap with limitation or else, you would reported as ‘abuse’ by your friends in Facebook. I see nothing wrong to snap your pictures to share it with your friends and make them annoyed. Hey, that’s me. That’s me again. Me again with different angle. Ops! Another one!

Cam-whore in the dressing room.

Why on earth you wanna tell the world that you are trying new clothes? Seeking for comments on which shirt to buy when you are indecisive? OR you are too poor to buy that clothes, so you snap a picture and telling yourself that shirt was once on my body.

Cam-whore at gym

Good. Keep up the good work. Once you have that nice figure, your body is mine. For the love of God, what ‘s the excitement of taking your body picture at the gym? Are you promoting the facilities of the gym that can shape your body until that extend or are you promoting your own body so you can raise your market value before someone purchase your body?

Status that no one cares

“It’s time to sleep” “I love my undies” “I cut my fringe today” “I’m broke” “Going home now” – Seriously, those status are the words coming from attention whores. I’m really surprised that people do really care those status and ‘like’ it. Honestly, they give attention to those no-one-cares-status because of the look/nice body. If you were born with shit face, I don’t think people would take notice on your status as you don’t have the look to come with it. This is a real gay community that we’re living in.

I’m a bimbo

“Today is Friday, tomorrow is Saturday then Sunday comes afterwards” Seriously, where are those smart and demure gay dudes? I’m getting more Rebeccas in my FB. If you’re already a bimbo please don’t shout out loud to the world to manifest yourself. I recently read a status that this gay lad went to a gym and put his thousand ringgit worth of wallet in the locker. Showing off or pure bimbo? Who on earth would put LV wallet in the locker since the security at gym is questionable? Can they go back to the lala land? Sometimes I wish those bimbos are like iphone game, once you tap, they are gone. Tap! Tap! Tap!

This is my tit-tit!! Yay!

“How’s my tits? Pointed and pinkish, cute right?” The most annoying behavior is showing the shirtless body to the entire world. What for? Two schools of thought here – to share tips on how to build a nice body and its development OR showing off the skin so can hook up on the bed. Sorry, I have this mindset that most of the gays are a bunch of slut, so I would assume that they are enticing on the possible man or men so they can have some fun. I should thank them for providing me soft porn – type the specific name out in FB, then eureka! Time for gentle liquid flow down there. When I’m looking at their shirtless pictures, I’m like in the wet market , those lean fresh mean hanging on the hook waiting to be bought and to be eaten at home. Please button up, your body is for your lover or some strangers on your bed. Sometimes, I really wanna ask them ‘how much’.Do you know that there are many gay porn based blogs out there which grab your sexy pictures and put in their own website?