Stop Asking Me To Find A Boyfriend

By Lauren Jarvis-Gibson, Thought Catalog

Stop telling me which online apps are the best ones to find the right kind of guy. Stop telling me to go out on the weekends in order to find my soulmate. Stop telling me I’m too pretty to be single.  Stop asking me if I’m lonely on the nights I spend alone. Stop worrying about my well-being, please.

Did it ever occur to anybody, that sometimes, people want to be single?

And that sometimes, people enjoy the single life and they don’t want to go on a man hunt every weekend?

Did it ever occur to anybody, that most single people actually love their lives? That they are in fact, the happiest they have ever been? Did it ever occur to anybody, that single people don’t need someone else to make them happy?

I stay home on weekdays, not because I live a sad and depressing life but, because I genuinely enjoy spending time alone. And I thrive off of my own energy. I don’t like to get hammered in bars anymore like I did in college. And it’s not because I don’t like to have fun, my idea of fun has just changed. And somedays, I get dressed up and spend hours on my makeup. Is that to get attention from men? No, it’s to feel confident in myself. 

For anyone that is telling their single friends that they need to start dating, please stop. We don’t need your opinion. We don’t need your free therapy. We don’t need therapy at all actually. We just need to live our beautiful single lives, without people badgering us.

Stop telling us to settle down. Stop looking at us with worried expressions written on your faces. Stop shaking our head at us when we decide to stay in on a Saturday night. We aren’t opposed to having a partner. We aren’t opposed to getting boyfriends or girlfriends. We just want to do it without help.

And we want to do it in our own time, and in our own pace.

We don’t need dating apps or blind dates. We just want to live our lives freely, until someone walks through the door and makes us stop dead in our tracks. We don’t want advice on how to talk to boys in bars. We know how to flirt. We just don’t want to. We don’t want to try so hard. And we don’t need to.

So, to everyone who keeps telling me to get a boyfriend: I know you are just being caring and want what is best for me, but kindly f*** off. I’ll find the right person for me, when it is the right time.

Us single folk, don’t need anyone’s help. And we most certainly do not want to be anyone’s charity case. We can happily take care of ourselves, thank you very much. 

Hot Boys & Hunks Galore - Rio 2016 Summer Olympic

Though I don't like one single or any kind of sports but I love Olympic.

I love its opening ceremony. Four years of waiting and anticipation and that very moment the opening ceremony starts, there will be so much of pomp and grandeur. The best Olympic opening ceremony by far is Beijing 2008 - it was so good that left me awestruck. 

What about Rio this year?

I have no idea what was going on since I didn't catch it. I heard it was pretty boring and pretty much disappointed. When it comes to Brazil, of course Carnival pops up in everyone's mind but it didn't happened last Friday. 

The other reason I love Olympic and the same reason why other gay men love Olympic is the galore of hot and sexy men in the games. And we can see all the men from 207 countries which participated in Rio 2016! 

It's like raining men!!! Can you hear the raindrops?! Dick Dick Dick Dick Dick

Hold your horses, my fellow gay men. 

What is that? You're calling me a slut? Come on, it only comes every four years. I bet you are naked when you're showering, you slut!

Alright, let me share some of the hottest atlethes in Rio that caught my attention, our attention.

Photo: Celebuzz

Tom Daley from Great Britain - we should start the list with our beloved Tom Daley. He is such a darling in our community. And we are so proud of him for coming out. And look at his smile - okay, 3, 2,1...awwwwww

Photo: The Sun

Daniel Goodfellow from Great Britain - Tom's diving partner who won bronze medal in Rio. Not bad right? Definitely, we can be good fellow with Daniel. 

Photo:Hdnux

Taufatofua from Tonga and I have no idea where Tonga is. He had so much oil that United States are planning to invade his body.

Photo: timeinc.net

Arthur Nory Mariano from Brazil -                                                                                                              sorry I don't have any words to describe how good looking he is.

Hiroki Ogita from Japan - just disregard his face in this case but we feel the pain for his penis. Ouch! That's what you get when you don't play with your own pole. Let's give him first aid.

Photo: eugephemisms

Marcel Nguyen from Brazil - though people were fascinated with Arthur, but don't forget another cutie pie from gymnastic, Marcel Nguyen. Debut in London 2012, this German-Vietnamese parentage lad is so my type, seriously. You know i have a preference towards Pan-Asian.

Paul Ruggeri from US - no wonder gymnastic is one of the favourite games for the gays. So many hotties. Okay, we've been to Brazil, Germany and now, United States. Forget Trump or Hillary, vote for Ruggeri!

Photo: Morningledger

Ning Zetao from China - Don't look down to China okay? They have their ace of spade to showcase in terms of hot male athletes. Get your tissue, wipe off your cum drool.

Photo: Tuttosport

Alex Ranghieri from Italy - Just look at the Mediterranean look, uomo sexy!

That's all folks. Let's have another round of galore of hunks from the Olympic in Tokyo 2020. 

Before I end my note, let's pray and convey our best wishes to our Malaysia team in Olympic, the gold medal will be ours!

Click here to check out the boys in Olympic London 2012

Choice or Acceptance?

The person was my acquittance and he was married. I was like okay. I know it is pretty common for a gay man to get married with a woman but still stray off from the marriage and practises his gay life secretly. But when it comes to someone you know that practises this malpractice, somehow you will feel sad.

So I was playing the gay social app. Suddenly I saw a familiar face.


Don't you feel sad for his wife whom I believe she has no idea that her husband has another life outside. Worse still, what if they have children?

The man can claim that he is a bisexual. But much too often, the man has misuse the term "bisexual". Gay men could be hypocrite sometimes. They just want people to perceive them to be slightly normal than the pure gay men since they have sexual orientation towards women in which it is a human nature. Come on, if you are gay just admit it. Being bisexual is far more abnormal for me since they could insert whichever hole they could find. YEW!

Let me ask you this, when you realize yourself that you are gay, will you still be lying yourself that you are not gay and I will choose to be straight?

For me, being gay is not a choice, it's a gift, a nature. Here and then I asked my gay friends why they became gay - almost all of them said "I was with this special sexual orientation". They just accept it and being who they really are and they are leading a happy life (gay=happy after all).

What about those people who were born to be gay but force to be straight and get married. It is totally unfair for the wife. Seriously, the wife commits her entire lifestyle for this marriage and family but the man could be so cruel to lie to her? This is hurtful. I also doubt they would have any spectacular sexual life. You see, for gay men, boobs and pussy are two gruesome things ever exist on earth.

I really hate those gay folks who became straight and join the chorus with other homophobics to dscredit homosexual is not right and it is normal in the name of religion and it is against social norm. Who are they to be our moral police? What are social norms anyway? Prostitution, corruption, killings, extra marital affairs - aren't these happening like every day? Aren't these social norm too?

It's getting late now. I bid you good night.

Disappointments That You Should Be Grateful For

By Jamie Varon, Thought Catalogue 

1. That unrequited love

Oftentimes, in our fog of perceived rejection, we don’t see straight. We convince ourselves that the person who doesn’t want us is, undoubtedly, the person we want more than anyone else. What we don’t see clearly are the ways in which this person wouldn’t have added much to our lives. Relationships are meant to lift us and, if we were faced with intense resistance from another person, we can be sure that the partnership would have caused more strife than good.

Instead of harboring feelings of pain and fixating on the rejection of whoever didn’t reciprocate your feelings, instead choose to be grateful that a force stronger than you veered you off a path not in your best interest. Eventually, we will meet someone that we would never have met had our heart been in the possession of that unrequited love. And, in that moment, we will be grateful that our heart is whole and unfettered by the scarring that other relationship would have caused. We don’t always get exactly what we want, but many times, what we want is not in our best interests as human beings who desire peace and growth and pure love.

2. Not getting that job we thought would change our lives

After many interviews and many daydreams about what our life would look like in a certain position at a certain company, we hear the blowing news that we haven’t received the job. At the time, we can’t understand why this wouldn’t work out, despite harnessing all the powers of the Law of Attraction to visualize our life within this job we have perceived as perfect for what we desire. We don’t know yet that there’s something on the other side of that disappointment. Maybe it’s a job that’s challenging and rewarding in ways we could never have imagined or ever could have conjured into a daydream.

No matter what, our perceived disappointments are always openings and the more we lean into those openings, instead of resisting them, the more we allow the chance to be surprised. We may think a line of work or a career choice or a certain job will meet the expectations we have in our head about what is best for us, but we never can predict what’s happening behind the scenes, what’s available if we gracefully accept that when something doesn’t work out in the way we want it to, that it’s truly just creating more space for something better.

3. That horrible heartbreak

We’ve deemed breakups as among the most emotionally painful experiences, but what if we could find light in our heartbreak? I’m not saying you can find it immediately, because I’m a big advocate of feeling your feelings and not stuffing them down, especially in favor of some bullshit gratefulness you assume you should be feeling. All I’m saying is that eventually, there comes a time where we have to be grateful that a relationship ended to allow for something better. When a person is ripped from our lives, it’s the clearest indication that the relationship would not have served either parties very well. And we don’t know what’s on the other side of that heartbreak.

Sure, maybe there’s a better person for us, just around the corner, who fills in all the blanks the other person left over. But, maybe it means opening up our lives to new friendships that would have passed us by had we continued to be consumed by a relationship doomed to fail. Maybe it means a new passion that gets born out of pain and loss, something we could have never seen coming if our eyes were blinded by that love. Maybe it leads us to a deeper understanding of ourselves, a deeper sense of compassion and love for others around us, a more enlightened line of thinking about romantic relationships.

Our lives do not exist in compartments. Everything that happens is connected. The end of a job could signal the beginning of a relationship. The end of a painful friendship could give way to an incredible career opportunity.

We don’t get to know. Our only job, essentially, is to allow and lean in and know that through pain and rejection and sadness and heartbreak and loss, there is a world that exists in relativity, where we can only know true happiness and love by knowing a lack of it. In this way of life, there is no room for disappointment. There is only room for growth and for the constant expansion of ourselves, to allow more of life and light and love in

Unwelcoming Encounters At Gym

The moment I stepped into gym, the cocks are like everywhere. The cocks at the treadmills, the cocks  at the yoga class and the cocks at the weightlifting corner. I can't handle so many cocks at one go!

Just joking. Though the dudes at my gym are simply irresistible but they didn't alert my gay-dar :(

If you didn't know, I've been hitting the gym like religiously since early this year. Can't see much difference in me right?

Wait until i take off my shirt!

Scare already right? Okay, i put my shirt back on.

Seriously, I did lost weight - a little. The huge difference I felt ever since I took the gym was less MC for me this year. Really, this year I only fell ill once!

Aside from the differences in physical and biological wise, hitting the gym has given me a whole new experience and new environment - or should I call it encounters. These encounters simply trigger the buried bitch-nature inside of me.

Let's see if we share some similarities when we're at the gym - after all, our favourite workout at gym is judging!


The Invisible Machine Hoggers

It is very annoying. There was a fat bald guy who put his towel at the machine and he wandered off somewhere. Since the machine wasn't occupied, so i sat down. Suddenly, he came back and he told me that he was still using it. Since I was a newbie back then, I did not make a scene. But I feel bad for the guy, after so many months, he is still fat and his head doesn't grow a single thread of hair.


The Visible Machine Hoggers

I can tolerate people who are using the machine for long period of time. Come on, I'm not a bitch to diminish one's mission to develop whatever state of their physical body that they are aiming for. However, people took my tolerance for granted by sitting at the machines and chat with their friends without even working out. If your boyfriends or girlfriends cheating on you, please bring the story outside of the gym - let the diva works out okay?

Animal On The Loose

If you know me well, you know that I like to blast Spotify with my earphones. But to my surprise, even I blasted at the maximum volume level, I still could hear the loud noise from people who were pushing very hard to carry the weights up. Seriously, there was another fat guy with his threatening face who loved to make the loud noises. Trust me, his noise is almost equivalent to the crying hyenas ---------------------------->

Carrying Air

Though I don't have much physical strength but I will never ever choose 5 kg weight. Yes, some people opt 5 kg and they are dudes! They are wasting their time and wasting my time since I wanted to use the same machine also. Could they just raise the hands and carry the air - easier?

Carrying Elephants

Contrary to the point above, some people are just too ambitious. They love to choose the weight that exceeds their capabilities. In the end, they could not do it and skip to other machine. And repeat - choose the heavy weight, fail and go to the other machine. DAFUQ! I just envisage them as a little girl who is scattering flowers across the field = doing nothing good for themselves. Really, it could injure them.


Sweating is Not Sexy

I know working out could make you sweat profusely and it is a common thing to take off your shirt. I'm not judging, in fact I like it since it is an eye candy opportunity for me (sadly, I could not touch). However, please wipe off the sweat. Sweat on the floor and sweat on the machines are not really hygienic my dear. You may consider to ask me to wipe off the sweat on your body instead?


Over Confident

Some people like to show off their ugly body. I really admire their confidence. Of course I'm not!
Skinny people showing off skinny body - for the love of God, they could fall one the floor with a dickslap. What about the fat people showing off the flabby body? Gosh, the layers of fat on the body are like pages, have to turn over the layer to find the tits!


I know there's a question pop up in your mind right now: Did alvin have sex at the gym?

I can read your mind so well. No because my gym is not that conventional and there is no room for those opportunities. Furthermore, they are all straight men. This sucks!

Pesta Makan-Makan Kimball Makes Dramatic Debut

Kimball, a household name in sauces for more than 40 years in Malaysia held its first one-day picnic-in-the-park styled food fest that added drama to the ‘good food’ list of foodies, families and fans in the Klang Valley, at Setia City Park, Shah Alam, today. 

Thousands of people tucked into a variety of Kimball-icious dishes, as Pesta Makan-Makan Kimball made a dramatically delicious debut.

The event saw more than 15,000 servings of a variety of delightful traditional and modern dishes being sold.  The dishes were developed by chefs, specially for Kimball. It showcased the creative use of Kimball products in dishes that can be easily whipped up at home for a dramatic taste, at an affordable price, while giving families and friends the ideal setting and activities to spend a relaxing day together.

In order to reward loyal Kimball consumers and thank them for their support, all dishes were priced at just RM1 to allow visitors to enjoy a variety of delicious dishes.

There were 12 delightfully named dishes including ‘Mi Ja-Wow’, ‘Spageti Bolognese Meletuppp’ and more that were quickly snapped up owing to their deliciousness.

The activities reflected Kimball’s ‘Tambah Drama Dalam Masakan’ campaign for 2016, that is all about adding dramatic flair to even the simplest dishes with a dash of Kimball, without bursting your budget.

With the six exciting zones,  ‘Tambah Selera’ and ‘Tambah Segar’ for food and drink, ‘Tambah Ceria’ and ‘Tambah Drama’ for games and activities, ‘Tambah Relaks’ for chilling out and picnicking, and ‘Tambah Rasa’ for special deals on assorted Kimball products, there was something for everyone.

There was also celebrity appearances by DJ Haniff, DJ Ray from ERA fm as well as host Azura Zainal.

In introducing the event, Campbell Soup Southeast Asia Sdn Bhd, General Manager, Mr. Paul Serra pointed out that Malaysians connect through food.

“Kimball understands Malaysians love for food, which is why over 40 years, the flavors of Kimball have become a favourite staple among Malaysians, making us one of the nation’s most trusted brands for sauces, and now pastas, too!”

“With this event we set out to unite communities, bringing families and friends together to enjoy a day out with relaxation, games, activities and most importantly for Malaysians, good food!  The food festival goers could try out the many delicious, easy and affordable to prepare dishes using Kimball, was a plus!” Mr. Serra said.

To find out more about Kimball’s easy, affordable and convenient recipes, you may visit their official website at http://www.kimball.com.my/, or log on to their Facebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/KimballMalaysia/ to discover more updates and information about Kimball’s products and how to maximize taste with simple ingredients, and to use them in daily meal preparations.

XOX Mobile Makes Dreams Come True As Main Sponsor of Astro Classic Golden Melody

XOX Mobile will make more dreams come true in its new role as the main sponsor of the well-loved, long-running and highly-rated Astro Classic Golden Melody singing competition 2016 which will air on ASTRO AEC, come August 6, 2016.

Astro Classic Golden Melody Singing Competition, is Malaysia’s most prestigious singing competition for mature amateur singers, aged 45 years and above. It offers a second chance to contestants who may have had to give up singing and performing in their youth to live their dreams.

Auditions for the 40 contestant from nationwide in the competition were held nationwide, and for the first time, amateurs from Singapore will also have a chance to compete.

At the finale that will be aired on December 17, 2016 the overall winner of the XOX Mobile Viewers’ Choice Award will be announced, and will win a cash prize of RM30,000!

XOX Mobile, the country’s first Mobile Virtual Network Operator has grown by leaps and bounds since it began, and has made rewarding its growing ranks of subscribers a priority.

Since the beginning of 2016, XOX Mobile has branched into supporting entertainment events, especially concerts of popular foreign and local artiste such as Sammi Cheng, Rain, Eason Chen and Leo Ku, and rewarding its subscribers with concert tickets.

Astro Classic Golden Melody Singing Competition 2016 is now in its 16^th year, and continues to be among the highest rated shows on the ASTRO AEC channel, reaching a wide audience of viewers, both young and old, who tune in faithfully to keep track of their favourites.

For more information on XOX Mobile and Astro Classic Golden Melody Singing Competition contests, please visit facebook.com/xoxmalaysia.