Sunday, May 11, 2014

Gay Son Like Me

It was rather an awkward moment when My mother asked my partner  “Do you have a girlfriend?”.

Like duh, “Mom, his lover is me la!”

Of course my response above never actually happened since I’m still in the closet from my mom. I guess one of her wishes is to see me to get married and settle down. I think it will be impossible to make it happen since my beloved country never ever will allow me to get married ( and I’m just paying my taxes to the country since I’m a trespasser). To be honest, I really want to have a “walking down the aisle” moment because it’s a lifetime experience and I don’t want to die without any solid and proper acknowledgement for my partner.

Even the wedding happens; it will be an obsolete if my mom doesn’t give her blessing.

Aside from keeping up with my partner, one of the challenges that I’m facing being a gay fella is that I’ve been hiding this dirty secret of being gay from my mom.

I think she knows I’m gay just that she doesn’t want to confront me. How the heck that she knows?

Some of my friends are rather soft, I’m pretty close with my girl friends and I don’t have a girlfriend for the longest time – come on, she’s my mom, I bet she will know that her son is rather special compared to her eldest son.

I’m quite admire those gay folks who came out to their mom – I even more envy to know that they treated their son’s partner like their own son – how wonderful it will be!

So how should I come out? Blatantly and abruptly tell her that Im gay? Or formally introduce my partner to her?  Or maybe I just forever hold my silence?

But whatever it is, I know for sure, no matter I’m straight or gay or bisexual or transsexual, I know she will accept me of who I am and she will never have a tinge of embarrassment over it.

 I believe this notion of acceptance applies to every mother in the world as the love shown by our mothers are simply irreplaceable and utmost respectable. Indeed, having a mother is like having a treasure.

I guess you who are reading this blog will agree with me that no one else can do of what you’ve done for us – a tribute to the woman in our lives, Happy Mother’s Day!


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  2. Being honest is not going be easy if you think the other person cannot accept it. I was honest to someone recently via whatsapp and damn it was not easy. Anyway, that is why you are hesitant to tell your mom. Why don't you write a letter and then confront her? You have to tell her sooner or later.

    1. Write a letter will be time consuming i supposed

    2. Yes, time consuming but you can think it through and write whatever you want in that letter.