Let Go

When you have the intention to commit into a relationship but you have hesitation to do so.

I guess I'm not the only one who have this hesitation. Even the person that I'm seeing, he's not ready.

There are many reasons we have this hesitation. One of it gonna be that we are afraid to be hurt again.

You see, once we've been hurt, we swore that we would never fall in love again. We would build the tallest wall to safeguard our heart from being hurt again. I guess it's just a human nature to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Even the opportunity comes, we tend to avoid it since our scars remind us that the pain is real.

Once bitten, twice shy - as people may call it. But the question here is  when we should be ready? Would it be fair for the person or even for yourself to bring the past and let the past to be a hindrance to grasp the opportunity?

If we can't let go the past and keep bringing the past in the road ahead, it would be even more hurtful and worse still, you are giving the person who hurt you the credit. The credit that he is so important in your life that you still can't let go even now.

I believe for those who have been hurt before like me, it's time to tear down those walls.

Travel Light with Flash Plus 2

Travelling within the country, or abroad is a favorite among Malaysians. Flash understands what Malaysians love to do and is offering a RM100 travel package discount voucher when you purchase a Flash Plus 2 from offline stores.

Flash Plus 2 is a perfect combination of hardware and software, featuring a metal framework, and supporting fingerprint scan, fast charging and HiFi while being configured with the Helio P10 processor, 5.5” screen and stock Android M operating system.

But what makes it your perfect travelling companion is the outstanding camera and the HiFi music player. Flash Plus 2 adopts integration of PDAF and contrast focusing with merely 0.1s of focal alignment, allowing users to take a snap shot of fleeting moments. You won’t miss any memorable moments.

In order to appeal to more preferences, it comes in two attractive colors, which is Luna Sliver and Venus Gold. The metal rear case went through multiple complex processes like horizontal brushed metal surface and twice anodic oxidation, among others, coupled with fine details in the phone body to produce a truly beautiful phone.

Starting October 24, 2016, the RM100 Travel Package Discount Voucher will be given out when you purchase a Flash Plus 2, in stores! Customers will only be eligible to receive the RM100 voucher when they purchased their Flash Plus 2 in stores.

Customers who have purchased their Flash Plus 2 in store can log in to https://www.packist.com/voucher-redeem to complete your redemption of the RM100 travel discount. Packist.com is a registered licensed travel agency, and offers travel packages that you can redeem in part with the voucher.

May your newly-store-bought Flash Plus 2, help you capture your memorable journeys and may it play you, the perfect soundtrack for your future adventures.

Only available for a limited time, please log on to http://www.flash3c.com/my/where-to-buy/ and locate the nearest offline store. The offer stands, while stocks last.

True Colours

I believe everyone who is reading this blog has respective rock bottom period. I even had mine few months.

Things are getting better but I'm still at the bottom zone. It's like an empty plastic bag drifted to wind - without any direction, without any aim.

I know it is tough, challenging and restless but everyone of us need to go through rock bottom at some stages in our lives. You would learn a lot at the rock bottom. You learn to be strong, you learn to be resilience and you learn to positive.

And most of all, you learn to see people's true colours.

You see, when you're at rock bottom, you tend to reach for people's help. Though the help is not much to address the whole problem but at least it could lessen your burden.

As you reach for people's help or even just simple pathetic years, you would learn who are your true friends who would be there for you. I don't have many friends in fact but I'm grateful that I have few friends who always been there for me. And believe me, they gonna be my friends for lifetime.

For those who shun away from me, though I was shocked but they had a choice. It was really up to them.

But thanks to them, I really could see who my true friends are.

Maybe I should confide at home after work rather spending my time outside since most of the people are pretty ugly.

For those people who are at the rock bottom right now, let me tell you this; don't be discouraged. I know it's hard to take courage once again. I know the people in this world can make you so small but please never confide to them. Don't ever change for people to like you. Just be yourself because original is more worthy than a copy.

It’s Ready, Set, GO! with Antabax Sanitizing Range

Antabax, the *No.1 Halal antibacterial personal care range[if !supportFootnotes][1][endif] has introduced the Ready, Set, Go campaign to encourage more Malaysians to be prepared and ready for the daily challenges of keeping clean and hygienic.

Comprising a terrific trio of pocket-sized Antabax Antibacterial Cleansing Wipes, Instant Hand Sanitizer and Hand Sanitizer Spray, these handy cleansing essentials will see you through any situation that requires a quick, hygienic fix.

The Antabax’s Ready, Set, GO! antibacterial range provides 24-hour protection and kills up to 99.9% of harmful germs. Formulated with skin vitamins and Aloe Vera to keep skin healthy and moisturized, its Derma Protect System contains Micro Moisture Serum to leave hands soft, smooth and healthy. Dermatologically tested to be gentle on the most delicate skin, the range is suitable for daily use.

All Antabax products are certified Halal, giving Muslims full confidence in using it.

Whether you are hunting monsters for Pokemon GO, working out at the gym, commuting via public transport, shopping for groceries, heading home for the holidays or braving public restrooms, the Antabax Ready, Set, Go range has you covered.

The wipes, sanitizer gel and sanitizer spray are conveniently-sized to fit in pockets, and will take up minimal space in handbags, backpacks, schoolbags, baby bags, pouches, first aid kits and cars. Small in size, but powerfully effective, this trio of cleansing heroes gets the job done when it comes to cleansing, quickly, conveniently and with the assurance of killing 99.9% of harmful germs.

Usage

Wipe down mobile phones, tablets and laptops daily with Antabax Antibacterial Wipes as screens and keyboards pick up sebum from skin, makeup, oils and even bits of food, aside from the germs that we come into contact with daily. Clean up sweaty and sticky gym equipment before and after your workout. Great for a quick clean-up after fast food in the car – yes, we’ve done this too!

Use the Antabax Sanitizer Spray to spray toilet seats at public toilets, shopping trolley handles, and handrails or handholds in buses or trains during your daily commute. You can come into contact immediately or wipe down with tissue, and feel the assurance of better hygiene.

The Antabax Gel Sanitizer works best when rubbed between hands and fingers as a thorough cleanse from germs, when soap and water are not available.

Antabax’s ‘Ready, Set, GO!’ antibacterial range is available in leading pharmacies and retailers nationwide including Guardian, Watsons, AEON and many more.

The Stroke Games – A First in Malaysia

The National Stroke Association of Malaysia (NASAM) is organising the first ever Stroke Games in conjunction with its 20th anniversary celebration.  To be held on March 4, 2017, the event is specially designed so that stroke survivors can participate in various sports within the scope of their abilities. 

This pioneering initiative will showcase the remarkable abilities and the possibilities of life after a crippling stroke.  It captures the strong, innovative spirit of NASAM and upholds the organisation’s motto that ‘there is life after stroke’. 

“The Stroke Games is born out of the belief that sports and playing games heal the brain,” said Founder Chairman of NASAM, Janet Yeo, a stroke survivor herself.  “It will provide a platform for stroke survivors to overcome challenges and inspire them to compete with one another in a spirit of sportsmanship and camaraderie.

“After a stroke, appropriate and aggressive rehabilitation is crucial,” emphasised Yeo.  “Participating in a sport or games not only provides physical benefits but also contributes to improving cognition, body awareness and spatial orientation.  In addition to the therapeutic benefits, playing games provide stress relief, builds team spirit and improves social skills.” 

According to Yeo, the Stroke Games is pivotal to taking NASAM and its stroke survivors to new heights.  “The Games is in tandem with NASAM’s mission to continue nurturing a new beginning for stroke survivors through holistic stroke-specific programmes.  It is a reminder to our survivors and families never to give up.  The event also showcases to our donors and the public that with motivation and dedicated support a stroke survivor is capable of amazing recovery.  This will be an opportunity for them to see our stroke survivors as courageous champions and super heroes.” 

The Stroke Games will be held at the Panasonic National Sports Complex in Shah Alam, and will see about 800 stroke survivors, family and friends from NASAM’s nine clubs nationwide coming together.  There will be 34 sporting activities – eight individual and 26 group challenges.   These include table tennis, darts, bowling, carrom, obstacle walk, baton relay, and basketball.

Each game has been carefully selected and modified, taking into consideration factors such as the abilities and stress levels of stroke survivors.  “The sporting activities involved in the Stroke Games have been modified to be safe for stroke survivors,” added Qamer Iqbal Khan, NASAM’s Rehab Training and Development Head.  “The degree of modification is based on the severity and impact of the stroke.  For example, basketball shoots or throwing darts will be played standing as well as sitting on a chair.  So whether you are in a wheelchair or walking independently, the experience will definitely be enjoyable, fun and at the same time aid recovery.” 

To make the Stroke Games a reality NASAM is seeking contributions from organisations and individuals. The sponsorship can be in cash or in the form of specific items, including hotel accommodations for stroke survivors and their caregivers, t-shirts, trophies and transportation. In return sponsors will be featured on promotional materials such as t-shirts, caps, buntings and banners, and also on NASAM’s official website.  All cash donations are tax exempt. 

“We want the Stroke Games to be a point of pride for stroke survivors and for all Malaysians,” said Yeo during a media briefing at NASAM on Monday.  “Our stroke survivors are ready to step out, put aside their challenges and demonstrate their inner strength and amazing abilities.  We need your support to make their day spectacular.”  

At the media briefing the Stroke Games logo was unveiled by the patron of NASAM, YABhg Toh Puan Dato’ Seri Hajjah Dr Aishah Ong.  The logo, a torch with vibrant colours and design represents the stroke survivor’s rise to the challenges of 'life after stroke'.  It denotes determination, inner strength, courage, hope and distinctly shows the final strides made to overcome the odds and emerge as champions. 

The Stroke Games will culminate with NASAM’s 20^th Anniversary dinner on Sunday, March 5 2017, at Geno Hotel, in Subang Jaya. 

Love is Colour Blind

Every now and then, strangers will ask me whether I'm Malay or Chinese.

I'm totally fine people questioning me about my race. To make it clear here, I'm pure Chinese. And I know I can't speak Mandarin and I have big eyes (not single eye-lid) which make people mistaken me as Malay.

I'm totally fine because I'm a Malaysian. There's no need to give much concern of what race I am, Malaysian first, my race comes second. I believe Malaysia wouldn't come into this stage if those bigots could put Malaysian first and race second.

Alvin, if you put Malaysian first, your race second - why not get a partner which is not your race?!

I have no problem with that actually. And people who are close to me know that I have preference towards certain race and that race is the majority race here.

As old saying goes "Love is Blind", if you're strong believe in this phrase, you have to
be colour blind in love.

I do not believe that the colour of one's skin is the factor for your to consider your partner. Underneath the skin, it's the common love that we share across the universe - the devotion, the sincerity, the care and the adoration.

But this is Malaysia. I believe if my partner is a typical Malay or Indian, people will have those staring eyes. I know even my friends will question me.

You know I don't care right.

Anyhow, I hope things could work out for me. Yes, I'm seeing someone lately who is not same race with me.But it's to tell whether we could be there.

For what I know at this moment,  I miss him a lot.

Back Into Love

Don't you think it's rather heartwarming to see an actual proposal?

I witnessed one the other day. When I was dining for a belated birthday dinner with my friends at Signature, The Roof, suddenly, people with balloons slowly walking into the restaurants. Then, as usual, it was suprised for the lass followed by the lad on his bended knee. 

Of course the lass said "yes". The whole restaurant clapped for them and they had my applause. Though I didn't know them but I really felt happy for both of them.

So they had my applause of blessing and happiness, when is my turn to have that kind of applause for myself?

You know it's the end of the year. And it's monsoon season. It starts to rain. As the heavy droplets of the rain fall angrily to ground, it wakens the world inside of me, and the world is named 'love'.

I have to admit here, someone caught my attention lately, not only my attention but my heart as well.

Well, it's still tip of the iceberg, I can't really assure that this could work or not. Hopefully, it won't be a lonely Christmas this year.

"Accidentally in love" and that's how I fell in love. 

You see we just started as friends, nothing serious, it was merely casual friends. But as the days gone by, I started to get more concerned over him.

I didn't know why it really broke my heart when he told me that he had a boyfriend. My whole just collapsed. It felt like as if the most precious thing I ever owned is taken off by someone else. And I felt like part of me has became hollow as he broke the news to me.

But then again, something happened between him and his boyfriends, the relationship didn't work. I know he was really heartbroken, but he didn't realize that I was even more heartbroken to see him heartbroken. 

My day isn't complete if I could not hear from him. I really miss him when we are apart and we are apart most of the time, that's why, I always lock myself in the room nowadays and just thinking of him. 

I know to say "I love you" is inappropriate at this juncture and he must heard these words hundred times before, so do I. And you've been hurt and so your heart has chose to close the door. Love broke your heart and brought you lies. 

You with your sad eyes. It's cute for me but I know deep down inside of you, you're discouraged. It's hard to take courage again, even for me, in a world of full of people and liars. 

But if you have a moment, just look into my eyes. You'll see a love that's deep and true; tender and strong all for you. And when you reach for love, you will only need to reach for me. I hope my tiny arms will not let you down.

You never walk alone. I'll walk with you through every storm. From my heart, I promise you I'll be there, for you, just for you. I'll never ever make you cry. 

And whenever I smile, you will be the reason, and always will be. And please don't ever let anyone to take your smile away. Coz you have no idea how many people have fallen with your smile.

Before I end my note, I would like to end with this beautiful cover by Justin Timberlake and Anna Kendrick. 

"And I see your true colours shining through. I see your true colours and that's why I love you. So don't be afraid to let them show. True colours are beautiful like rainbow"

Don't be sad and afraid as you still have me. 

Reasons Why Some Women Are Always Rejected By Me

By Erica Gordan

Every woman reading this should reflect right now on the dating patterns not only of themselves, but of their group of friends as well. Isn’t it perplexing that some women have amazing luck dating, and other women are almost always rejected by the men they pursue?

Some of my female friends have virtually never been single. The moment they are, a new great guy scoops them up. They not only have zero trouble landing a man, but they’re keeping their men interested, too.

Other female friends of mine are single by choice. They’re essentially never rejected. They date around, they’re wanted by many, and if anyone’s rejecting anyone, it’s them rejecting the men – rarely the other way around.

And then there’s the women who seem to always get rejected. These women might not be single by choice, and if they are, it’s only because of their fear of rejection. Their pattern seems to be that even if they do land a man, he’ll lose interest quickly. Or, they can’t even seem to get a man interested in them in the first place, as they’re always turned down when they attempt any sort of pursuit.

If this sounds like you, keep reading, because the solution to end this pattern of rejection might be simpler than you think. Here are 6 reasons why you’re always rejected by the men you’re interested in and what you can do about it:

1. You’re not giving the law of averages a chance to work its magic

In other words, you’re not putting yourself out there enough – not by a mile. If you’ve been rejected by men a bunch of times, and you’ve developed a fear of rejection, you might be avoiding the dating world all together.

The law of averages indicates that the more “no”s you experience, the closer you’ll get to a “yes”. It’s the magic of probability. In other words, the more dates you go on that don’t work out, or the more times you’re rejected, the closer you are to finding someone that it does work out with.

If you don’t put yourself out there, you’ll remain far away from that coveted “yes”. Mr. Right isn’t going to come knocking on your door while you’re watching Stranger Thingson Netflix, asking you if he can borrow a cup of sugar. Nobody does that anymore. Sorry, but you’ll actually have to go out, meet people, swipe right and be open to dating men who might not be your typical type. Just be open and out there, stop hiding, and it’ll happen.

2. You have a rejection attachment

If you’re used to being rejected and disregarded, you might unconsciously seek out rejection because it’s what you’re familiar with. If you’re seeking rejection without realizing it, you could have a psychological attachment to rejection.

When you identify yourself with disappointment, disapproval and rejection, you can develop what’s known as a rejection attachment. Some of the women reading this article are guilty of ignoring the men who are interested in them, and instead going after the men who don’t seem to be that interested. 

Perhaps this is proof of a rejection attachment. They know they’ll likely get turned down since the men they’re pursuing aren’t showing any signs of approval or interest towards them, but since rejection is what they know, they’re okay with it. They’re swimming in familiar territory, and it’s weirdly comfortable.

Women with a rejection attachment probably believe that they are undesirable, so they collect evidence that supports that belief. This evidence-gathering would of course include seeking out approval from those who aren’t willing to give them any sort of validation, and pursuing those who aren’t fully returning their affections.

3. Your attitude towards dating is generally quite negative

If you’ve had way too many horrible dating experiences to count, it can be tough to be optimistic about dating. Perhaps you’ve been dumped, cheated on, rejected, left for somebody ‘better’ and told you weren’t good enough so many times that you now have a negative attitude towards dating.

The problem with not being positive is that you won’t attract anything positive. You get what you give, so if you’re giving off a negative attitude when it comes to all things dating related, it’ll be picked up on – even if it’s subtle or subconscious.

The law of attraction rightfully suggests that any limiting beliefs towards dating or love are stopping you from attracting a mate. If you believe that you’re not good enough to be adored by someone, you will never be adored by someone. If you believe that you’ll be rejected, you’ll be rejected. Anytime you catch yourself thinking these negative beliefs, make sure to challenge them, because negativity is a bad habit that needs to be broken.

4. You have low self-esteem

Ok, you probably aren’t expecting this, but I’m about to quote Fat Bastard from the Austin Powers movie. You probably remember the part where he says “I eat because I’m unhappy …. and I’m unhappy because I eat. It’s a vicious cycle.” Well, the same goes for rejection. You have low self-esteem from being rejected … and you’re being rejected due to your low self-esteem. You can’t let that cycle continue.

Men are not attracted to women with low self-esteem and no self-confidence. Confidence and self-love are attractive qualities, and that’s the number one thing you need to work on if you want to find love. If you don’t think you’re a total catch, why would he think you are?

5. You’re either too needy or too independent

Nobody enjoys either extreme. Being too needy is terrible because nobody likes feeling as though you’re relying on them too much. It can be overwhelming for a man to think that he’s fully responsible for your happiness because you ‘need’ him and rely on him so much.

However, he wants to be needed a little bit. He probably doesn’t want you to be so independent that he can’t even show off a little and fix a problem for you because you always want to fix it yourself. He probably doesn’t want you to be so independent that you care way too little, and aren’t effected by anything.

6. You’re picking the wrong men

Don’t pursue a guy who has someone else in the picture. Before you pursue a guy, it’s best to get all the details when it comes to how ‘single’ he really is. If he’s not over his ex-girlfriend, he’s very recently single or the woman he really wants turned him down, it’s best think twice about dating this guy.

It’s pretty difficult to get a guy to commit to you if there’s someone else he’s thinking about. Make sure he’s single, unattached and available in every way first. Ask around, and ask him. Straight up.

It’s best to go after a guy who’s available in every sense of the word. Seek men who are open to a relationship, healthy and happy. Don’t pick the wrong men, and don’t let them pick you.